Question

name: lynda reese period: 2b date: 9 - 30
i and need statements
when a person feels that they are being blamed whether rightly or wrongly, it is common that they respond with defensiveness. a i statements are a simple way of speaking that will help you avoid this trap by reducing feelings of blame. a good i statement takes responsibility for ones own feelings, while tactfully describing a problem. i statements are also an assertive way to effectively communicate. need statements help express what you need in the moment in an assertive way.
i feel emotion word when explanation
other sentence starters: i think... i want... i dont like...
i feel... must be followed with an emotion word, such as angry, hurt, or worried.
do not use the word you in your statement. try to find ways to express how you feel without using the word you.
scenario 1
your boss put you on the schedule for a day you had requested off for an out of town family function.
i statement
need statement
scenario 2
you have been really stressed about the amount of school work you missed when you were sick and one of your teachers just gave you more work due this week.
i statement
need statement
scenario 3
your brother seems to have more freedom than you. you think your parents rules are unfair.
i statement
need statement
scenario 4
you believe you did better on a test than what your grade reflects.
i statement
need statement
create your
own scenario
i statement
need statement

Explanation:

For Scenario 1:

• "I" Statement: I feel disappointed when my boss schedules me for a day I requested off for a family function.
• Need Statement: I need my boss to respect my time - off requests.

For Scenario 2:

• "I" Statement: I feel overwhelmed when my teacher gives me more work after I was sick and already stressed about missed work.
• Need Statement: I need more time and understanding to catch up on my work.

For Scenario 3:

• "I" Statement: I feel frustrated when I see my brother having more freedom than me and think my parents' rules are unfair.
• Need Statement: I need my parents to treat me and my brother equally.

For Scenario 4:

• "I" Statement: I feel cheated when I believe I did better on a test than my grade reflects.
• Need Statement: I need a fair assessment of my test performance.

For Create Your Own Scenario (example):

• Scenario: A friend cancelled plans last - minute for the third time this month.
• "I" Statement: I feel let - down when my friend cancels our plans at the last minute again.
• Need Statement: I need my friend to be more reliable and committed to our plans.

Answer:

Scenario 1:

• "I" Statement: I feel disappointed when my boss schedules me for a day I requested off for a family function.
• Need Statement: I need my boss to respect my time - off requests.

Scenario 2:

• "I" Statement: I feel overwhelmed when my teacher gives me more work after I was sick and already stressed about missed work.
• Need Statement: I need more time and understanding to catch up on my work.

Scenario 3:

• "I" Statement: I feel frustrated when I see my brother having more freedom than me and think my parents' rules are unfair.
• Need Statement: I need my parents to treat me and my brother equally.

Scenario 4:

• "I" Statement: I feel cheated when I believe I did better on a test than my grade reflects.
• Need Statement: I need a fair assessment of my test performance.

Create Your Own Scenario (example):

• Scenario: A friend cancelled plans last - minute for the third time this month.
• "I" Statement: I feel let - down when my friend cancels our plans at the last minute again.
• Need Statement: I need my friend to be more reliable and committed to our plans.