Question

when a person feels that they are being blamed, whether rightly or wrongly, it is common that they respond with defensiveness. \i\ statements are a simple way of speaking that will help you avoid this trap by reducing feelings of blame. a good \i\ statement takes responsibility for ones own feelings, while tactfully describing a problem. \i\ statements are also an assertive way to effectively communicate. need statements help express what you need in the moment in an assertive way.
\i feel emotion word when explanation\
other sentence starters: i think... i want... i dont like...
\i feel...\ must be followed with an emotion word, such as \angry\, \hurt\, or \worried\.
do not use the word \you\ in your statement. try to find ways to express how you feel without using the work you.
scenario 1
your boss put you on the schedule for a day you had requested off for an out of town family function.
\i\ statement
need statement
scenario 2
you have been really stressed about the amount of school work you missed when you were sick and one of your teachers just gave you more work due this week.
\i\ statement
need statement
scenario 3
your brother seems to have more freedom than you. you think your parents rules are unfair.
\i\ statement
need statement
scenario 4
you believe you did better on a test than what your grade reflects.
\i\ statement
i feel as if i did better on the test since i studied
need statement
create your own scenario
\i\ statement
need statement

Explanation:

For Scenario 1: "I" statement - I feel disappointed when you put me on the schedule for a day I requested off for a family function. Need statement - I need you to consider my prior - requested time off in the future.
For Scenario 2: "I" statement - I feel overwhelmed when you gave me more work this week after I was sick and already stressed about the missed work. Need statement - I need more time or less new work to catch up.
For Scenario 3: "I" statement - I feel frustrated when I see my brother having more freedom and think the rules are unfair. Need statement - I need more equal treatment and fairer rules.
For Scenario 4: "I" statement - I feel confused when my test grade doesn't reflect how well I think I did. Need statement - I need an explanation or re - evaluation of my test.
For Create Your Own Scenario: Let's say "A friend cancelled plans last minute." "I" statement - I feel let down when you cancelled our plans at the last minute. Need statement - I need you to give more notice or be more reliable in the future.

Answer:

Scenario 1:
"I" Statement: I feel disappointed when you put me on the schedule for a day I requested off for a family function.
Need Statement: I need you to consider my prior - requested time off in the future.
Scenario 2:
"I" Statement: I feel overwhelmed when you gave me more work this week after I was sick and already stressed about the missed work.
Need Statement: I need more time or less new work to catch up.
Scenario 3:
"I" Statement: I feel frustrated when I see my brother having more freedom and think the rules are unfair.
Need Statement: I need more equal treatment and fairer rules.
Scenario 4:
"I" Statement: I feel confused when my test grade doesn't reflect how well I think I did.
Need Statement: I need an explanation or re - evaluation of my test.
Create Your Own Scenario:
"I" Statement: I feel let down when you cancelled our plans at the last minute.
Need Statement: I need you to give more notice or be more reliable in the future.